We are better strangers.

7/9/2018

Photo of Sue Lyon photographer unknown

We are better strangers then we are family and that’s ok. Often when I post something about my mom not being in my life, I always end with a powerful statement of self growth, truth and forgiveness. We have not been in each others lives for over 34 years and every time she has come back there was never peace. After these times I would find the strength to become wiser and more forgiving of her and of myself, thinking it would be different. The only difference that happened in our world was me and the time I had achieved growth on my own. I have surrounded myself with healing love, the places I moved, the people who have became my family and the pets that guarded my heart with their lives. Every once in a while on my blog posts, I will have someone comment about how they wish my mother and I would be together again, and I thank them for the love they have in their hearts to think if she see’s me she would some how be different. Yet, unhealthy people do not get better not with out a lot of work, that they must choose to do! If they stay unhealthy and become older all they do become worse and more damaging. Anyone who is unhealthy and doesn’t have your best interest in their reason for being in your life, does not deserve to be there. Now to clarify in the past and even sometimes in the present my mother has been in my life, but only in short amounts and usually only a phone call. I have been protecting her from herself and from me for years. When I got old enough to know she was never going to change, after the anger, hurt and frustration of that reality. I learned how to protect myself so much it is as if we live on two different planets. In our society we have this old baggie of “Blood is thicker then water”! But if that blood is toxic to who you are and having the blood in your life will never allow you a true healthy existence and a chance to know what life is with out constant suffering, then that blood has no place in your life. That blood is your teacher and your growth to becoming a better spiritual being. Your realization of these life lesson will allow you to truly LIVE in peace.
~ Nona Truth Seeker

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Lolita's Daughter

Memoir

Born and raised in Los Angeles, Nona’s life began as a fairytale. She was the daughter of a famous actress Sue Lyon (Lolita), and NFL player (Roland Harrison). Her father was absent for most of her childhood, and being a bi-racial child, she had questions at a very early age about why she looked so different.

By age 12, Sue remarried, and her relationship with her mother was never the same. Nona was kicked out of her house and by the age of 13 she was taken to a halfway house. That same year her mother placed her in an insane asylum where she stayed for almost 3 months. That kind of betrayal by her mother, a woman she once idolized, broke Nona’s spirit in a way which would take years to recover from. The author currently lives in Los Angeles…

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7/9/2018 05:31:24 pm

“Blood is your teacher”, so much insight and truth here. Sometimes setting boundaries is the healthiest thing to do. And for some of us it’s better to wait until we’re grown and re-engineer our “family” from the ground up, carefully choosing who we surround ourselves with. I love hearing about your healing and growth.

Jen

7/10/2018 01:28:38 am

A piece of the peace puzzle that's a picture of your sweet heart. I love your honesty Nona, keep speaking your truth ❤️❤️

C@D

7/10/2018 11:29:17 am

TruthSeeker - I love your truth. It inspires as pages to a sonnet untold. We're all bounteous by Blood; Family simply gives us those center pieces for life..."The Seeds" to Mother Earth. Your ability to "Truth" comes from your relation to her. Blood keeps the "Heart" recognizing the difference!

Soren

9/16/2018 03:08:54 am

I have just finished watching Lolita. As I always do, I looked up its reviews, and I looked up its cast. Sue Lyon's Wikipedia page was surprisingly short, yet she had a tragically long list of divorces. This was the only clue in that article that hinted at her troubled life.

After half an hour of searching, watching interviews and reading snippets of gossip, I became more saddened and conflicted than Lolita's ending had made me felt. The story of this girl whose personality shone through the silver screen so bold and clear, despite her life being one set decades apart from my own.

There were few details, but it didn't take much reading between the lines to feel the unspoken regret.

I know her past is one echoed through the history of youth and stardom; ignorance is bliss, but I've chosen to care for this story, almost personally.

I would like to read your memoir. Where could I find it?

Brenda Johnson

6/14/2019 12:25:08 pm

My heart goes out to you. I'm amazed at your capacity to love, given your lack of maternal or paternal role models. Out of curiosity, I read some information about Sue Lyons and I was struck by the fact that there is very little information about Robert Lyon Harrison, the young man she and your father adopted. Are you still in touch with him?

Sharla Staab

12/28/2019 04:25:43 am

My condolences to you with your mama’s passing. I will keep you both in my prayers.

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