I felt so loved as a child by my mother. I also felt I was allowed to be an individual, which gave me the ability to find the strength to live without her at a very young age. Every child should grow up with parents that support, love, and guide them. My life’s lesson was to learn how to succeed without that guidance. My success came from what my parents weren’t able to give me. In the beginning I was angry, hurt, and confused with why she was unable to raise me. After age 12, I would never feel her touch, or see her smile of joy again. And year after year of this separation is where my spiritual work began. I had to work through the feelings of a child that had been abandoned. And re-write my story over and over, until I was able to live with that reality. I chose to learn how to be happy, and healthy. That decision gave me the tools I needed to heal my past. I had to learn that I could trust outside of my family dynamics. I let go of the feeling that my past was a dirty secret I had to keep hidden inside. I learned how to stop feeling like I had to protect my parents. Years of feeling shut down from protecting them from the choices they made. I wasn’t really living my truth, nor could I even see what my truth was! I no longer wanted to feel afraid of letting them go, to live without the pain that surrounded them in my heart. When I decided to forgive them, to see them for who they really were (two people who did not want to be parents), that is when I was able to live in my truth! And let go of the pain and hurt of what they could, or should have been. Instead, I learned how to grow with what I had, and become the kind of woman I wanted to be.
Something beautiful happened. By practicing being happy, I was able to let go of wanting to fight what I can not control. My life was more about how I could let things go and enjoy what I have for the NOW. And That is when my peace of mind and happiness became more of my reality than anything else! I chose Me, and it was enough, and I am proud. First Post: June 15, 2015
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Grey Torres
4/24/2016 06:31:45 pm
The happiness is built. I'm so glad you've learned to be able to build it.
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